I feel like the twenties are a time to just flourish and prepare for the future. Everyone has a different idea of what they want the future to look like but they don’t happen on their own. Goals are so important, especially if you’re prone to feeling lost and stopping every so often, asking yourself ‘what am I actually doing with my life?!’ Of course, there should be different goals depending on what you want but these are three things I feel I need to do for mine.
Build a stable career
I didn’t set out to reject the 9 to 5. As long-term readers know, I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and I needed to get out so I leapt. But I definitely landed on my feet and I’m so happy with the freelance life and being my own boss. The important thing to remember is that I am only 23 and it can only get better. When I picture the future now, I don’t picture going back into an office. I picture myself in my mid thirties with a stable career and a happy home, which is easier to manage if I work from home. Of course, these kingdoms take time to build. The way I see it, If I work hard now, I’ll have a laidback future!
Make and save money
I know that money is meant to be this icky topic that we, especially women, can’t discuss openly. But the fact of the matter is that money makes the world go round. Anyone who says that money isn’t everything clearly has the privilege of never being without money. I’m not saying that it’s all that matters because it definitely isn’t but money is stability and security and that’s super important, obviously. I’ve finally decided to be a grown up and start committing to saving some money for the future, to always have a buffer and feel safe.
I’ve been terrible at saving money all my life, which I feel is kind of okay as I’m young and careless. But there is definitely some danger in a freelance career, naturally, and so preparation is key. And life is just expensive and you never know what it might throw at you. From experience, pets in particular drop a thousand pound bomb on you occasionally! I just want to rid myself of all financial anxiety. I’m sure we’ve all experienced it and know what I mean! Having plenty of savings can make you feel much calmer.
Be less impulsive
There are so many ways in which I mean to apply this third one. Firstly, my immediate go-to reactions to any situation are always panic and stress and this makes me such an emotionally impulsive, reactive person. I care way too much about absolutely everything. Things like, what do people think of me? Am I eating right? Am I going too slow or are other people just crazily accelerating their lives? Things like worrying about work because these things all seem so stressful and urgent in the moment but they won’t matter next week. Making a conscious effort to relax is one of the best things you can do. Don’t we all just want an easy life? Managing the things you worry over is a good place to start.
I also want to stop reacting to unearned guilt in an impulsive way. Lately, I’ve been feeling really guilty over everything, and I mean absolutely everything. From feeling guilty over what I eat or when I eat it, what I’m wearing, how much I’m working. I feel guilty about what I did or didn’t say, how well I did or didn’t do something and I even feel bad on the weekend for not doing anything work related. In these moments, I do things like return things I bought, feeling like I don’t deserve them, tell someone how I really feel, when I probably shouldn’t, and work well over the normal hours to quieten feeling lazy. Taking a moment to pause would be great.
I also want to be less impulsive and frivolous with money. Now, instead of buying something off the bat, I try to think on it for a few weeks or even a month and then get something if I still want it. Honestly this has been one of the best moves I have made money wise! If you, too, are impulsive with money this ‘think on it’ approach is so worth a try!